Wednesday, November 2, 2011
So for a while I have heard people talk about this show online on their facebook pages and things like that, but I don't have cable and TLC doesn't do full episodes online, besides I am to busy catching up on the good shows like Modern Family, Hoarders, Body of Proof and when it is on Beyond Scared Straight on abc.com and a&e.com so I hadn't had a chance to watch it. Lo and behold, turn on Netflix today, and there it is, I don't know how many episodes are up, usually it is just the first )season of something like that, but I will figure it out as we go along. So the girls and I watched the first episode totally disgusted. What is wrong with these people?? Why would they want to allow thier husband to marry another woman, and sleep with her?! Have children with her, watch them kiss each other?! Quickly our opinions have been made, and our comments fly out of our mouths. Nothing can change our minds, we sit there and watch this guy who has 3 wives decide to bring a fourth wife into his home!! He already has 12 children and 3 wives, what the heck does he need with a fourth one?! He has been married to the first three for 20 years, 17 years and 16 years. And now he decides he needs to get with a 30 year old with 3 children of her own?! I am beside myself as these women sit and talk about how this is the lifestyle they have chosen, they love their lives and wouldn't have it any other way, but then a couple of episodes later (yes we watched 4, don't judge us) the 3 wives are in tears about bringing another wife into their house. I sat and watched these 3 ladies be heartbroken because they felt that they weren't enough for their husband of 16+ years. How sad is it that these poor ladies have given everything for him and this lifestyle to just have him decide on a whim that he wants to take another wife on and they just have to accept it.
I just don't understand how anyone can watch this and think that this lifestyle is ok and not harmful to anyone involved. The newest wife was talking to one of the older girls and she asked her "so when you get older, will you life a polygamist lifestyle?" To which the daughter replied "um...no. I am sorry I love my life and wouldn't have it any other way, I love my dad and my 3 moms, but my husband will be for me and me alone." The new wife chuckled uncomfortably and said "but then you don't get great new moms like me" and the daughter just laughed. What is it doing to these kids? Teaching them that there is one person for a girl, but multiple for a guy? That it is ok for a guy to basically cheat on his wife as long as he marries her too? That the girl must be faithful to him and him alone, but that doesn't count for him? Since when is that ok?
This show has become my car wreck, you can't believe you are sitting there watching it, but you can't not look at it. You are drawn to it in some sick twisted way, you want to know more about it, but not admit that you are curious about how they live, what in their minds makes it ok that they are like this. Don't get me wrong, he seems to truly love all of his wives, and he is great to everyone (kids and wives that I can tell in 4 episodes), and for some people this is the lifestyle they have chosen, but that is so not for me in any way shape or form.